Meandering Forward

November 24, 2019 @ 9:30 PM


My friend Pat works with a group of engineers. Never having worked in an engineering firm before, Pat thought that engineers developed products by perfecting an idea into a precise drawing which was then made into a perfect prototype and, from there, put on the market. Now, after seeing the experimental methods that are basic to creating new products—oh, maybe this material, oh, that didn’t work, let’s connect the fastener to the plate, what about not using a plate?—she finds the process more random, more exploratory. “That’s how my life has always been,” she says. “I’m an explorer meandering forward and discovering random opportunity.”

We are constantly creating ...

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The Wild Horses Come

April 5, 2018 @ 5:15 PM

Tell me, what is it you plan to do
with your one wild and precious life?

                                                         -- Mary Oliver

As my husband Bill and I drove north from Albuquerque on Interstate 25, the city receded into the arms of the Sandia Mountain Range, majestic and silent to the east.  The freeway cut through vast open country as we climbed steadily to the turnoff that took us onto the winding roads and hairpin turns leading up to Chris’s place. I marveled at the beauty of the high desert dotted with junipers and pinons. As we drove up to the house, I noticed ......

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Passion, Purpose and the Magic Shoes

June 29, 2017 @ 6:23 PM
Discovering our purpose can seem like an enormous burden, a significant thing to contemplate.  But if we are passionate about something, we can more readily come to know our purpose.  We live our purpose as a natural expression of the passionate self. 
Passion is visceral.  When our bodies are alive, we are alive. According to Angelis Arien, anthropologist and storyteller, questions indigenous healers ask a person who comes to them complaining of dis-ease are: "When did you stop singing? When did you stop dancing?  When did you stop being enchanted with the stories, especially the stories of your own life?" Certainly, alienation from our own passion and purpose is a critical dis-ease.&......
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What to Do With a Loose Horse

April 16, 2016 @ 10:21 PM

Pay attention! A horse that is loose in the arena is often as engaged in the activity as the horse that is working directly with the client. When I was in Uruguay teaching equine guided coaching, I wanted to convey this with a learn-by-doing approach.

My Proyecto dos Equis team set up a large circle with four quadrants, each big enough for a person and horse to stand in. The activity is called Expanding Perspectives. Each quadrant represents a perspective from which a client could consider a problem.

That day Veronica volunteered to be coached. Everyone else in the course, about thirty people, gathered around the outside of the circle to observe. We had several assistants throughout the arena, and one loose horse, Sarandi. Veronica stood ......

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Taming The Tough Stuff

December 1, 2014 @ 6:35 PM

The coaching approach considers feelings to be a natural part of living. Coaches make room for feelings and allow them to surface, giving the client time and space to explore, to face the dragon so to speak. In daily life, we humans are not so used to letting the tough feelings be there before trying to get rid of them. But often, when we allow them and separate them from the judgments and imaginings that accompany them, the feelings move and change on their own.  

It takes courage to be with your feelings and not push them away. When you allow your feelings to simply be, you can continue to look more closely at the workings of your mind: your imaginings and judgments about how things are and what might happen. This is called ...

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What Can We Change?

November 26, 2014 @ 10:07 PM

Like the serenity prayer says, there are some things we can change and some we can’t. It’s our job to draw on our wisdom to know the difference, and to pluck up the courage (and sometimes just the willingness) to make the changes we can.  

A few years ago, I was diagnosed with tongue cancer. Who knew? I’ve never smoked and I rarely drink, but somehow I had small lumps that needed three surgeries.  They were successfully removed, but every time I went back for check-ups, there would be iffy, pre-cancerous cells present. Finally I asked myself, “What can’t I change and what can I change here?”

I went to a complementary healer, Anne Westfall, and found that I had underlying candida that ...

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Equine Guided Coaching for Midlife Women

November 12, 2014 @ 5:54 PM

Horses heal in many ways. Just hanging out with horses can be soothing to the soul. Among more guided approaches, there is equine assisted therapy which treats mental health issues. There is hippotherapy (or therapeutic riding) where people with disabilities, mostly children and youth, ride a horse with the assistance of trained instructors. (The riding stimulates the muscular and neurological systems as closely to walking as anything can. Not only that, the disabled person has the added benefit of being in relationship with a horse.) Then there is equine guided coaching and learning, which is the modality I use. This coaching-based approach assumes the client is creative, resourceful and whole, and that there is nothing to be fixed. The ...

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What Calls You Forth in Life?

November 3, 2014 @ 7:00 PM

Recently I was in a seminar where the question was “What gives you your purpose?” We were to look at what calls us into life. I wanted to say all the things that have always in the past given me purpose: my work with the horses, connecting with spirit, bringing joy, dancing. However, we were asked to look at how much of that came from the past, from a place of survival, from too much thinking, or from some sort of solidified sense of accomplishment. As I stepped into this challenging question, I remembered a Buddhist saying that I’ve had with me since I was in my twenties:

An old man lives in his past saying “Look what I did when I was young.
A young man lives in his future saying, “Look what I will do ...

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Not about Gittin' 'er Done

October 29, 2014 @ 10:32 PM

The goal of Equine Guided Coaching is not to “get the job done.” Learning is what it’s all about. Often that learning is profound, whether the assigned task with a horse was completed or not. 

Let me give you an example from my own life:

Several years ago, when I was just starting to do this work, I was in California training with Ariana Strozzi, one of the pioneers in Equine Guided Education (EGE).  Each of us in our group of ten was to come up with a declaration about our life or our business and, one at time, go up and ask Yani, a beautiful buckskin mare, to move around us in a circle on a 20-foot rope attached to the horse’s halter. First we were to say our declaration, then ask Yani to move out ...

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If We Just Listen

October 16, 2014 @ 9:07 PM

Horses are intuitive beings who can show us in an instant when we are fooling ourselves and when we are on the right track. As herd animals who are tuned in to the slightest inconsistency in their environment, they mirror back to us inconsistent behaviors we may not have been aware of—behaviors that stop us from moving forward in life or from moving deeper into our own authentic spirit. When clients leave an equine guided session, they leave with insights they can immediately apply to their lives. What’s more, no matter what result a person hopes to achieve when they come to a session, almost everyone leaves having been touched by the horses at a much deeper level than they expected.

It gives me great joy to do the work I do&...

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